…Or not? Reading through my social feeds today was a bit confusing. Some were doting love on others, some not… Some made sarcastic attacks on “Valentine’s Day” and some were just normal…

Now I question, what is it about this particular day that people tend to be blissfully in love, unhappy and/or just nonchalant? I don’t celebrate Valentine’s Day, I celebrate Wellington’s Day and I will not disclose why… LOL… your imaginations can go wild on that one, just remember I’m innocent, LOL…

untitledSo, I Google (I mean research) and find some quite disturbing things about this particular day on which we celebrate (or supposed to celebrate) love… The origin of this day is quite unromantic to say the least… Firstly it is linked to some Roman fertility festival that took place from 13th to 15th Feb, whereby men sacrificed dogs and goats, and used the hide of the sacrifice to whip the women (gruesome much?) alternatively men would draw the names of women from a jar and spent the duration of the festival (or forever) with that woman… Secondly there is a story of St. Valentine, a Roman priest who married young couples against the command of the Roman Emperor Claudius… St. Valentine was captured, tortured and subsequently beheaded on Feb 14th

So I guess we can see why Feb 14th and also where the name comes from, however based on those origins, how on earth did today become a day to celebrate love and present chocolate, flowers and gifts to our beloved ones?

imagesSC6S8P4XThe day was first associated with romantic love in the middle ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished (Shakespeare things). In 18th century England, it evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by gifting flowers, offering sweets and sending greeting cards (known as “valentines“). In Europe, St. Valentine’s keys are given “as a romantic symbol and an invitation to unlock the giver’s heart”, as well as to children, in order to ward off St. Valentine’s difficulties. Then came the 19th century where Hallmark mass produced greeting cards and I guess civilization just bought into it – great business intuition guys, LOL…

So there we have it… February the 14th is actually an unromantic day and very much a commercially packaged money making scheme… I can hear many guys gasping a huge sigh of relief, but just because I have given you reason not to go the extra mile on this day doesn’t mean your beloved ones will excuse you as easily so tread lightly my fellow humans…

Either which way you look at this day, I strongly urge that this day is not seen as THE day to celebrate love, it should be an everyday affair… and so too with it, love should not be expressed in gifts (although it is nice) it’s the things you do, the things you say and how you make your loved ones feel… after all show me a human who does not value time spent together over a box of chocolates… or thinks more of a wrapped box than being wrapped in your arms and I will bluntly tell you that person is not human at all…

Hope you all had an awesome February 14th

Nicci

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